Never in my wildest dreams did I think my firstborn would ever need academic help.
He walked at 11 months old, spoke in complete sentences by 18 months and knew every colour (even grey and beige!) well before his second birthday. He pee-potty trained in three days. And he had a voracious appetite for books, and we read to him constantly.
Although he could spell and recognize his name before entering junior kindergarten, we never spent much time at home writing it. Nor did we colour much or use safety scissors. None of those things ever really appealed to him, and I figured he’d sort himself out when he went to school. I figured that child-led learning worked for the Montessori folk, and so it would work for us.
But then he started JK and when we got his first report card, and it clearly noted that his scissor skills were deplorable. But he was meeting most of the other milestones, and we did the homework that came home with relative ease. Although his final report card that year wasn’t exactly glowing, it certainly didn’t raise any red flags and the teacher had never asked us back for a parent-teacher interview.
And so we did NOTHING in the summer between JK and SK. We just spent the summer hanging out, having fun and travelling. Of course we continued to read books to The K Man, but we rarely asked him to read to us.
I realize now, of course, that was a huge mistake on our part. Before you judge, take solace in knowing that I feel like a failure and judge myself every day for it. We could have done more. And we should have done more. I’ll always wonder what kind of difference that summer would have made on his future academic success.
Then SK was upon us, and we got back into our routine of doing homework and having him read the books that came home. We added a bit of extra homework of our own, making sight word flash cards and putting more emphasis on writing and colouring. But as any parent of a child who wants nothing to do with homework can attest, sometimes the battle just wasn’t worth it. We lead a busy family life and I again assumed that what he was doing in the classroom was enough.
It wasn’t.
And after we got that dreaded request for a second parent-teacher interview (the optional one to which only parents of troubled or delayed children are invited), my heart sank. And with only a few months left in the school year, we amped up our efforts at home. I really felt like we had done a good job; I certainly noticed an improvement with spelling and reading after we really focused on these things. Keep in mind, too, that this is a very happy, sociable child who never once said he didn’t want to go to school and ALWAYS came home telling us he had a great day.
So I was surprised by his final report card of the two-year kindergarten program we have here in Ontario. While he exceeded expectations in only half of the “graded” areas, in the other half he was “still developing.” My heart sank again. We had failed our son.
I vowed that the summer between SK and grade one would have its fair share of fun but would also have a much heavier concentration on academics than ever before.
Enter Oxford Learning, who generously offered The K Man a three-month session in its Beyond Tutoring program. We also signed up Miss Q (at our expense) for Oxford’s Little Readers program, which although will not be part of this review, I can tell you is a truly enriching experience that I think has done a wonderful job of helping prepare her for JK this year. I will absolutely be registering her for it again next summer. That aside, on with this review!
THE GOOD

Oxford Learning’s Beyond Tutoring program begins with an assessment to properly place your child at the right level. If your child is six or older, part of the assessment is cognitive. This is endlessly fascinating. The 1:1 assessment itself takes between an hour and an hour and a half, and The K Man said it was a lot of fun and he felt like they just played a lot of different games. A few days later, I was invited back to discuss the results. This is where it gets really interesting. The K Man had three scores that fell above the average: on one of his oral vocabulary tests (where he had to choose the picture that matches a word the instructor said); one of his auditory tests; and his concentration (which in this case means taking in new information, integrating it with previously acquired knowledge and manipulating it to apply it in a new way). His two lower-than-average scores were with one of his visual tests and his problem solving/critical thinking skills; the assessor noted that the latter meant he dislikes taking risks or making mistakes. This was definitely my child’s results; he has always been extremely cautious, and I completely own that he’s probably scared to make mistakes because he has a perfectionist for a mother. It’s important for me to acknowledge this out loud because it’s something about which I need to be hyper-aware. I don’t really feel like wrecking him any more than I already have.
The class sizes are ridiculously small. We’re talking two or three students total. This means your child gets a tonne of attention.
Oxford Learning is a Canadian-founded company and program. I love me some wholesome Canadian goodness! (They have since branched out into the U.S. of A., too.)
It’s not a button-down, strict academia type of setting. Teachers are called by their first names and there’s a lot of joking in between the learning. The K Man adores his teacher, Mark. They have a good time together and I think that’s a big reason why he’s happy to be there for an hour basically doing school work.
We go twice a week, for an hour per class. This works really well for us in the summer because it still allows us to have enough days of the week to fit in our fun and not affect travel plans. We’ll see how this commitment works when we’re in school all day, every day, for the first time ever. (For this reason, we chose a Saturday as one of our Beyond Tutoring days in addition to one weeknight right after school.)
There are a lot of available times and days to attend Oxford Learning sessions. They’re open until 8 p.m. some weeknights, and (as I just mentioned) on Saturdays as well.
From time to time, The K Man comes home with an “award” or encouraging note. This is lovely. We’ve put each one in his memory box after talking about how he earned it. My favourite to date is the “We caught you checking your work!” certificate.
Although The K Man’s pencil grip is still pretty crap, in the one month that we’ve been at Oxford, I have seen a noticeable difference in his sight-word recognition and overall writing skills. It doesn’t take him as long to sound out new words either. I’m excited to see what the next two months, in tandem with grade one, bring.
THE GAFFE
The assessment costs a couple hundred bucks. And when you’re then going to face a monthly commitment of $450 for the Beyond Tutoring program, this stings a bit if you’re on a tighter budget. I understand that the company doesn’t want parents to just take the assessment results and use them outside of Oxford’s walls, but there’s got to be a way to have a more win-win situation. Perhaps if parents sign on for a six-month (or longer) stint, the assessment is included. Just throwing that out there.
There is no second assessment to visually benchmark progress. So at the end of our three months, the teachers will be able to tell me verbally how our son is improving, but I don’t get to see it on another fancy chart. I’m a chart kind of gal, so I would appreciate this month-over-month comparison on paper.
It’s not inexpensive. Each centre’s charges fall within a range of somewhere between $350 and $450. Obviously, demographics and local living expenses all play a role in determining the exact amount, so you need to check with your local Oxford Learning location to get an exact amount. I know this is just outside the realm of possibility for some families. Food, shelter and other basic necessities come first. But for families who are eating out a lot, shopping at higher-end stores or spending thousands of dollars per year on hockey or dance lessons, I personally think something like this comes first. Academic achievement should trump weekly restaurant visits or new hockey gear.
THE GEARS
4.5/5
So…where do I sign up?
First, find an Oxford Learning location in your ‘hood. Then, contact them and together choose the program that’s right for your child. And you’re off!
Joan says
Completely written by Oxford for their advertisement . Beware!
Mommy Gearest says
Actually, that’s categorically untrue. I wrote this personally based entirely on our wonderful experiences we’ve had with Oxford Learning. As I wrote in the post, I was provided with a short-term tutoring experience for my son free of charge. That was 3 years ago. We have since been with Oxford Learning ON MY OWN DIME every year since. That’s called a testimonial – not an advertisement. Check your facts.
Joan says
Completely written by Oxford for their advertisement . Beware!
Mommy Gearest says
Actually, that’s categorically untrue. I wrote this personally based entirely on our wonderful experiences we’ve had with Oxford Learning. As I wrote in the post, I was provided with a short-term tutoring experience for my son free of charge. That was 3 years ago. We have since been with Oxford Learning ON MY OWN DIME every year since. That’s called a testimonial – not an advertisement. Check your facts.
Jill says
I understand your guilt. I also understand your expectation that these skills would be more addressed in school. They aren’t. The Ontario public school system teaches to such a narrow scope of learning types that even the brightest child can struggle — and there is no warning. I was horrified to learn that my oldest daughter had significant learning gaps and had been advanced through her classes and grades with virtually no red flags. It wasn’t until grade 10 that the learning deficiencies were identified, and the school had no avenue for helping her. She had some wonderful teachers, but in allowing her to pass “successfully” into the next grade before she was ready, the education system really left her behind. That was when I also turned to Oxford, and our experience has been very similar to your own. And just tonight I have returned from getting the assessment results for my second daughter and I nearly cried in the office, just knowing how much better equipped she will be and the impact it will have on her self esteem. They are a truly life changing organization.
Mommy Gearest says
Your kids are lucky to have you — a learning advocate in their corner rooting for them and recognizing that asking for help is a GOOD thing.
Jill says
I understand your guilt. I also understand your expectation that these skills would be more addressed in school. They aren’t. The Ontario public school system teaches to such a narrow scope of learning types that even the brightest child can struggle — and there is no warning. I was horrified to learn that my oldest daughter had significant learning gaps and had been advanced through her classes and grades with virtually no red flags. It wasn’t until grade 10 that the learning deficiencies were identified, and the school had no avenue for helping her. She had some wonderful teachers, but in allowing her to pass “successfully” into the next grade before she was ready, the education system really left her behind. That was when I also turned to Oxford, and our experience has been very similar to your own. And just tonight I have returned from getting the assessment results for my second daughter and I nearly cried in the office, just knowing how much better equipped she will be and the impact it will have on her self esteem. They are a truly life changing organization.
Mommy Gearest says
Your kids are lucky to have you — a learning advocate in their corner rooting for them and recognizing that asking for help is a GOOD thing.
Kay says
I needed to read this myself. I’ve been going through the same emotions. 🙂
Mommy Gearest says
It’s hard. I know those emotions well. But here’s the good news: my son is now ahead of many of his classmates and – in grade one – reading Harry Potter novels with our help!
Kay says
I needed to read this myself. I’ve been going through the same emotions. 🙂
Mommy Gearest says
It’s hard. I know those emotions well. But here’s the good news: my son is now ahead of many of his classmates and – in grade one – reading Harry Potter novels with our help!
Martina says
Hi Andrea
Thanks for the great post and the 4.5 ranking of our services! We’re very pleased that the K Man and Miss Q are enjoying their programs and we hope that you’re confident that we’re helping them develop new academic and cognitive skills that are not only preparing them for the school year ahead, but also equipping them with skills that they will rely on for their rest of their lives.
We like to think long-term; after all, learning is a lifelong proposition, so it makes sense that an academic program would not only look at a child’s abilities now, but also look at building skills that a child will use for the rest of his life.
Our programs are an investment in your child’s long-term success, and you’re right, it’s not inexpensive, but the value far outweighs the cost. Think of Oxford Learning like a long-term investment, with a payout of better grades, improved thinking skills, increased motivation, and academic self-confidence that your child can rely on not just this school year, but for every school year to come. We couldn’t agree more that for many parents who are already investing thousands into hockey, dance lessons or other sports, an academic investment translates into a better future for your child.
Thanks again for the great post and suggestions, which we will consider. We look forward to hearing more about the K Man’s progress!
Martina says
Hi Andrea
Thanks for the great post and the 4.5 ranking of our services! We’re very pleased that the K Man and Miss Q are enjoying their programs and we hope that you’re confident that we’re helping them develop new academic and cognitive skills that are not only preparing them for the school year ahead, but also equipping them with skills that they will rely on for their rest of their lives.
We like to think long-term; after all, learning is a lifelong proposition, so it makes sense that an academic program would not only look at a child’s abilities now, but also look at building skills that a child will use for the rest of his life.
Our programs are an investment in your child’s long-term success, and you’re right, it’s not inexpensive, but the value far outweighs the cost. Think of Oxford Learning like a long-term investment, with a payout of better grades, improved thinking skills, increased motivation, and academic self-confidence that your child can rely on not just this school year, but for every school year to come. We couldn’t agree more that for many parents who are already investing thousands into hockey, dance lessons or other sports, an academic investment translates into a better future for your child.
Thanks again for the great post and suggestions, which we will consider. We look forward to hearing more about the K Man’s progress!
Lisa Marie says
First of all, you have NOT failed your child. Your child is 6.
I’m sorry that you struggle with guilt. Just because someone somewhere decided that “6 years old need to know xyz” does not mean that is true for every child. My heart bleeds when I hear parents feel like they are failing their child in these gentle early years.
He will learn how to cut with scissors – give him a pair and let him hack up some paper. He will learn how to read. Give him time, keep encouraging.
Yay that you’ve found a solution that works for you – I hope you see some progress and success with it. Just remember …. you are an awesome parent. Your child is fantastic. 🙂
Mommy Gearest says
Lisa Marie – thank you. Thank you so, so much for this. xo
Lisa Marie says
First of all, you have NOT failed your child. Your child is 6.
I’m sorry that you struggle with guilt. Just because someone somewhere decided that “6 years old need to know xyz” does not mean that is true for every child. My heart bleeds when I hear parents feel like they are failing their child in these gentle early years.
He will learn how to cut with scissors – give him a pair and let him hack up some paper. He will learn how to read. Give him time, keep encouraging.
Yay that you’ve found a solution that works for you – I hope you see some progress and success with it. Just remember …. you are an awesome parent. Your child is fantastic. 🙂
Mommy Gearest says
Lisa Marie – thank you. Thank you so, so much for this. xo